Introduction#
Recently, I read "Child Educational Psychology."
In a previous response to Ye Weiyang, regarding Education – ACEVS, I concluded by saying that the essence of the matter is simple, and the positive content is also quite straightforward. However, putting it into practice is difficult.
Why is it difficult to practice? Simple things are not necessarily easy. The children of teachers, lawyers, doctors, and police officers may not be well-educated and might even create a significant sense of disparity. These professions are highly regarded in society, and they bring that societal recognition back home, which might lead to counterproductive guidance for their children. For instance, there are many examples of children misusing the identity and status of adults. The three areas of education are family, school, and society. Schools also have their drawbacks, such as a lack of attention to children. In family education, parents often take shortcuts, using methods from their own upbringing without learning from others' experiences.
Laziness#
This difficulty is linked to diligence; diligence is a state of being, an active state, while the opposite state is one of inaction, which is laziness. They should not be viewed in opposition, just like cold and hot are merely temperatures or states of molecular motion. If one believes that heat is good, the sun's intense activity lacks life; at least, according to current scientific definitions, life has not been discovered there, though there may be higher forms of life that our technology cannot detect. Conversely, the relatively cold Earth, amidst the vastness of the lifeless universe, has life, possibly of a less advanced nature.
Laziness is a habit learned by humans. The book presents an interesting viewpoint, stating that people generally do not care about the matter itself but rather about their opinions and perspectives on it, which mainly reflects sociality. For example, the incident of calling a deer a horse primarily depends on one's viewpoint; the event itself is also viewed through one's perspective.
Benefits of Laziness#
Children are lazy because they gain benefits, develop personalities, attract attention, and have a shield; when things do not go well, laziness seems to be the inherent reason. Similar terms to laziness include lack of time, carelessness, lack of money, and lack of mood. Although I am already an adult, I still have these habits and flaws, and there are other methods to strongly interfere, such as categorizing tasks into four types: important, unimportant, urgent, and non-urgent, and then placing particular emphasis on results, whether there is fame and fortune involved.
Many things become too lazy to do; if work does not pay, yet you continue, then it is a job you love.
Laziness can lower others' expectations of you; a small improvement from a lazy person is seen as quite impressive. For example, if a person who drinks soda every day suddenly stops, others will think it's remarkable. The same applies to smoking. Conversely, if a diligent person fails, people may wonder if their intelligence is lacking, or if they have bad luck, or if their methods are incorrect. Laziness can also serve as a cover for insufficient ability; for instance, I am too lazy to code because I have done some coding and know that while running it is easy, debugging bugs is not, and stitching code into a whole is also challenging, especially without tutorials. So, it is indeed a lack of ability; software is commonly used, and when installing software, I first check how many users there are and how many tutorials are available. For example, I recently tried the Atom editor but uninstalled it after finding that the latest version 1.6.3 had no tutorials for Chinese localization.
Laziness is also the foundation of progress; it cannot be denied. Command-line operations and mouse-based window operations, various transportation tools replace walking and running. The tools have progressed, while we have regressed in certain functions. Thinking further, silicon-based life as a tool has replaced tool users.
Ambition#
How can a sparrow know the ambition of a swan?
Ambitions should be high and far-reaching. First, take a look at this “Che Guevara of Electric Bicycle Theft” has not yet been released from prison, yet countless companies are waiting at his home, offering hefty contracts | In Prison | Propaganda | Internet Celebrity.
Stealing knowledge also implies learning. Directly stealing things is theft and is unacceptable.
From the perspective of internet celebrities, he has already succeeded.
With lofty ambitions, one cannot possibly work for others in this lifetime.
In fact, working for others is also a form of stealing knowledge; Che Guevara does not understand this.
Thus, ambition is often judged by external success, as society and schools tend to evaluate it this way. For example, a certain fund manager gives their child tens of thousands of pocket money each month to help them attract girls at school, and they even show off in WeChat groups. They have made it to trending topics.
My ambition is to be an astronaut, which is completely unrealistic. The only benefit is that once, when a pyramid scheme tried to recruit me and asked about my ambitions, I mentioned this, and they stopped being so eager to persuade me.
Looking back, it is actually about exploring the unknown, which differs from traveling the world, as the latter is about exploring locations.
Family education should focus more on inner qualities. It is better to cultivate children’s bravery, resilience, confidence, self-discipline, and exploration.
Educating children should not be delayed; it often leads to confusion later on.
It is also about educating oneself; reading is like looking in a mirror to see what one looks like.
Correcting one’s attire and mindset.